We should not focus on who we are or our desires, we should focus on who we could be. For a conventional person, the 8 Worldly Concerns are important. For a practitioner, the most important thing is to overcome the 8 Worldly Concerns.
Dzigar Kongtrul Rinpoche
Eight Worldly Concerns:
1. Attachment to getting and keeping material things.
2. Aversion to not getting material things or being separated from them.
3. Attachment to praise, hearing nice words, and feeling encouraged.
4. Aversion to getting blamed, ridiculed, and criticized.
5. Attachment to having a good reputation.
6. Aversion to having a bad reputation.
7. Attachment to sense pleasures in general.
8. Aversion to unpleasant experiences.