We can begin with thinking no matter how you see the vision, educate yourself that it is: That’s how I think.

Q: Rinpoche has taught somewhere is to look at things without any dualistic mind. But at this moment when we have already dualistic mind how do we go back to pure vision?

Rinpoche : We can begin with thinking no matter how you see the vision, educate yourself that it is: That’s how I think. If you can manage to do that ninety percent of the pure perception is done. Because many times we don’t think that is not how I think but that is how it is in real. That is already a big humility. Buddha’s own cousin, Ananda, without him most of the sutras we don’t have. And he begins the sutras saying: Thus have I heard. Such a humility. Which means how I heard, I could be wrong, somebody may have heard it differently This is how I have heard. It would be very arrogant for him to say: This is what Buddha said. But he didn’t say that. He said: Thus have I heard. Not only that he said at one time, at one place, indicating Buddha may have said something else to a different place and different time. But his humility is balanced with his confidence also. He said immediately after that. There was so and so Arhat and so and so Bodhisattvas and Mahasattvas and all of that. So he is bringing the witness.

~Dzongsar Khyentse Rinpoche

Self-conquest is far better than the conquest of others.

“103. Though one may conquer a thousand times a thousand men in battle, yet he indeed is the noblest victor who conquers himself.

104. Self-conquest is far better than the conquest of others. Not even a god, an angel, Mara or Brahma can turn into defeat the victory of a person who is self-subdued and ever restrained in conduct.”

In the Dhammapada chapter on “The Thousands,” verses 103–104

Awareness of the thought

“As it is explained in many of the meditation teachings, first of all you cannot stop thoughts. It is impossible. And stopping thoughts is not our agenda. It is not doable. Even if were do-able it is not necessary, it is useless. Meditation actually is to generate the awareness of the thought. If you are supposed to develop the awareness of the thought, then you have to have the thought to be aware of! So you can’t really get rid of the thought and then try to look at something.”

– Dzongsar Khyentse Rinpoche

The Self

“From time immemorial we have been addicted to the self. It is how we identify ourselves. It is what we love most dearly. It is also what we hate most fiercely at times. Its existence is also the thing that we work hardest to try to validate. Almost everything that we do or think or have, including our spiritual path, is a means to confirm its existence. It is the self that fears failure and longs for success, fears hell and longs for heaven. The self loathes suffering and loves the causes of suffering. It stupidly wages war in the name of peace. It wishes for enlightenment but detests the path to enlightenment. It wishes to work as a socialist but lives as a capitalist. When the self feels lonely, it desires friendship. Its possessiveness of those it loves manifests in passion that can lead to aggression. Its supposed enemies – such as spiritual paths designed to conquer the ego – are often corrupted and recruited as the self’s ally. Its skills in playing the game of deception is nearly perfect. It weaves a cocoon around itself like a silkworm; but unlike a silkworm, it doesn’t know how to find the way out.”

– Dzongsar Khyentse Rinpoche

from the book “What Makes You Not a Buddhist”