When meeting with angry or stubborn people

My own way of thinking is that when we are meeting with angry or stubborn people, we should bring even greater understanding to bear. The more closed-minded or hardheaded someone seems, the more reason there is for us to be open-minded and gentle when interacting with them. We can recognize how difficult and painful it is to live with anger or narrow views, and this allows us to feel compassion for them.

– 17th Karmapa

from the book “The Heart Is Noble: Changing the World from the Inside Out”

The very purpose of religion is to control yourself, not to criticize others.

LOOKING WITHIN
The very purpose of religion
is to control yourself,
not to criticize others.
Rather, we must criticize
ourselves. How much am
I doing about my anger?
About my attachment,
about my hatred, about my pride,
my jealousy?
These are the things which
we must check in daily life.
Taking your own body and
mind as the laboratory,
engage in some thorough going
research on your own
mental functioning,
and examine the possibility of
making some positive changes
within yourself.

H.H. The XIV th Dalai Lama

Mind Training should be engaged in discreetly.

Mind Training should be engaged in discreetly. It should not be done with external show, in a way that attracts attention and creates a reputation; it should act as the inward antidote to our self-clinging and defiled emotions. We should bring our minds to ripeness without anybody knowing.

H. H. DILGO KHYENTSE RINPOCHE

In the case of words that the Tathagata knows

[1] In the case of words that the Tathagata knows to be unfactual, untrue, unbeneficial (or: not connected with the goal), unendearing & disagreeable to others, he does not say them.
[2] In the case of words that the Tathagata knows to be factual, true, unbeneficial, unendearing & disagreeable to others, he does not say them.
[3] In the case of words that the Tathagata knows to be factual, true, beneficial, but unendearing & disagreeable to others, he has a sense of the proper time for saying them.
[4] In the case of words that the Tathagata knows to be unfactual, untrue, unbeneficial, but endearing & agreeable to others, he does not say them.
[5] In the case of words that the Tathagata knows to be factual, true, unbeneficial, but endearing & agreeable to others, he does not say them.
[6] In the case of words that the Tathagata knows to be factual, true, beneficial, and endearing & agreeable to others, he has a sense of the proper time for saying them. Why is that? Because the Tathagata has sympathy for living beings.”
**ABAHAYA SUTTA

The purpose of studying buddhism is not to study buddhism but to study ourselves.

“The purpose of studying buddhism is not to study buddhism but to study ourselves. It is impossible to study ourselves without some teaching… We need some teaching, but just by studying the teaching alone, it is impossible to know what ‘I’ in myself am. Through the teaching we may understand our human nature. But the teaching is not we ourselves; it is some explanation of ourselves. So if you are attached to the teaching, or to the teacher, you should leave the teacher, and you should be independent. YOU NEED A TEACHER so that you can become independent. If you are not attached to him[her], the teacher will show you the way to yourself.

SHUNRYU SUZUKI

The mind is the instigator

The mind is the instigator. The body on its own doesn’t have anything to do. It simply acts under the orders of its boss: the mind. The body doesn’t know a thing. It depends on the boss’ orders. So when the boss says, “Enough! No more!” then that’s the end of the matter. The mind doesn’t struggle or thirst. What struggles and thirsts is the aggregate of fabrication (sankhara). If you latch on to fabrication, that’s the essence of suffering — big-time suffering. If you look at the body, you’ll see that there really are no issues there. The issues all come from fabrication. If the mind can break through and understand this attachment to the body, then where else will desire come from?

– Ajahn Fuang Jotiko

学佛,不是为了保佑自己,而是为了舍弃自己。

学佛,不是为了保佑自己,
而是为了舍弃自己,
不是让佛保佑自己多发财,
而是保佑自己断除对财物的执著;
不是让佛保佑自己长命百岁,
而是保佑自己不要贪爱这个身体;
不是让佛帮忙铲除自己遇到的鬼魔,
而是加持自己对鬼魔不要起嗔心,
要以大悲心对待他们。

— 索达吉堪布